Betrayal Trauma and Deceptive Sexuality
When your intimate partner is acting out and you are exposed to the lying, gaslighting and manipulating.Your gut feelings tells you something is off but you don´t know what. You cannot figure out what is the truth here. Your nervous system reacts with trauma symptoms. Because you feel you are losing the person you love and trust. The person that promised to make it safe for you, but he is not doing it. You still love him and want to be with that person. The only thing you know with certainty, is that something is not working between the two of you. You probably also start believing, that maybe you did something wrong.
You don´t know that you are living on top of a secret sexual basement, where your partner is the only one that has access to and knows about. You do not know that he is doing everything possible to keep this basement a secret from you. You do not know that your partner is a sex-addict – and most of the time the partner does not know that either – and he tries his best to cover up his secret sexual activities.
And then one day you stumble over some evidence that gives you the first clue that your gut feeling actually was right and the stories you have been given are not the truth. Your world falls apart.
As this whole process goes on for quite some time, your nervous system goes into a state of trauma. You show typical trauma symptoms and it feels like you don´t know yourself anymore when you act in that way. And you don´t know where to get help because you have been so hurt and betrayed that it is very difficult for you to trust anybody again.
Does that story sounds somewhat familiar to you?! Then I have a good news for you: There is healing possible! I have been trained with Dr. Omar Minwalla in the deceptive sexual trauma treatment (DSTT) and I have learned about the secret sexual basement and how to stop acting out and stop lying. I have learned about the betrayal trauma you have been exposed to and how to walk with the betrayed partner learning to stand on solid ground again. I have learned to build a relationship that is based on honesty, trust, safety and respect. Healing from the betrayal trauma and from sex addiction is possible.
If you would like and give it a try – I know it is a step where you have to trust again – then send me a message and we organize a first charge free half hour session where you can get to know me. And then you decide what you want to do.
Or clicking below on betrayer, betrayed partner or betrayed relationship you can read some more about those three spinning plates. I am looking forward to hearing from you.
Betrayer
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Betrayed Partner
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Betrayed Relationship
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