In the previous post (What is happening down under at the personal iceberg of the betrayer? -Part 1-) we started our journey down under the personal iceberg of the betrayer to shine a light on the question of why he became a sex addict and acted out. We explored the two deepest layers of his […]
What is happening down under at the personal iceberg of the betrayer? – Part 2 – Read More »
The metaphor of the iceberg is often used in psychology as it helps to demonstrate the things that are happening invisible for the eye but that have a driving force on our behavior and emotional state. As with the iceberg there are only 20% of its volume visible on the surface, and the rest of
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Welcome back to the last part of the three posts about the different types of trauma, caused by betrayal trauma. In the first part of those three posts I have introduced you to the concept of the 22 rooms. Each of those rooms holds different trauma shaping induced by the betrayal. They are placed in
Let´s walk through the 22 trauma rooms! – Part 3 – Read More »
In the first part I have given you an introduction to the house and how the 22 trauma rooms are divided within the different floors. And we also looked into the first five rooms that form part of the Covert phase. In this blog we will go upstairs and look into the rooms of the exposure
Let´s walk through the 22 trauma rooms! –Part 2– Read More »
After sitting with betrayers and betrayed partners in the same room for almost 20 years and listening to their stories, their pain and their trauma, Dr. Minwalla came up with 22 different types of trauma the betrayed partner is exposed to throughout the time of the betrayal, discovery, disclosure and recovery. After I have talked
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To answer this question, we have to dive into understanding on how our nervous system works in terms of connection, safety and relationship. Let´s go back to a time when we human beings have been living in the prairie as nomads. We are walking and trying to find something to eat. And without nowhere a
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