Secret Sexual Basement

What are we talking about? Betrayal Trauma and Sex addiction are two terms that are directly connected, also the connection is not always as clearly seen as it should be. I am working for some years with betrayers, betrayed partners and the traumatic impact that the behavior of the betrayer has done to the relationship. […]

In the previous post (What is happening down under at the personal iceberg of the betrayer? -Part 1-) we started our journey down under the personal iceberg of the betrayer to shine a light on the question of why he became a sex addict and acted out. We explored the two deepest layers of his […]

The metaphor of the iceberg is often used in psychology as it helps to demonstrate the things that are happening invisible for the eye but that have a driving force on our behavior and emotional state. As with the iceberg there are only 20% of its volume visible on the surface, and the rest of […]

With this blog we are looking into the parts of the betrayer. What is happening on his side? After looking into the story, the trauma and the parts that are happening for the betrayed partner, we move now to the betrayer. In my first blog (“Why you should work with a Minwalla trained professional?”) I […]

Welcome back to the last part of the three posts about the different types of trauma, caused by betrayal trauma. In the first part of those three posts I have introduced you to the concept of the 22 rooms. Each of those rooms holds different trauma shaping induced by the betrayal. They are placed in […]

In the first part I have given you an introduction to the house and how the 22 trauma rooms are divided within the different floors. And we also looked into the first five rooms that form part of the Covert phase. In this blog we will go upstairs and look into the rooms of the exposure […]

After sitting with betrayers and betrayed partners in the same room for almost 20 years and listening to their stories, their pain and their trauma, Dr. Minwalla came up with 22 different types of trauma the betrayed partner is exposed to throughout the time of the betrayal, discovery, disclosure and recovery. After I have talked […]

Imagen yourself, your partner and your children sitting around the table and having a meal together, a normal family situation. You are laughing and talking and eating, sharing a beautiful family moment together. You have built this house, together with your partner including the dining room you are sitting in at this moment. Both of […]